When most people think of a DJ, an image of a man or woman wearing headphones standing behind astack of the CD’s, records, and digital music equipment usually comes to mind.Some may remember aDJ who provided the musical entertainment at a wedding reception or other party.In the book, TheTrauma Zone, author Dr. R. Dandridge Collins, introduces a different type of DJ – the“Trauma DJ,” whoinstead of music, spins the same negative messages to the dance floor of the mind.These repetitivemessages fuel the unhealthy emotions and behavior, according to Dr. Collins.
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1. Aaron Rodgers (Quarterback – Green Bay Packers)
– “I’ve always lived by the philosophy of the words spoken by St. Francis of Assisi who said, ‘Preach the gospel at all times, if necessary, use words.’ I feel like you can always have a greater impact by the things you do than the things you say, so living out my faith has been primarily in that form,” Rodgers said in Men of Sunday.
2. Jay Feely (Kicker – Arizona Cardinals)
– Feely and his wife Rebecca have held Bible studies at their home, mentored younger teammates and volunteered in their community throughout his career. When Feely lines up for a kick, he takes a short moment to be with God and remind himself of the strength and confidence the Lord gives him every day of his life. One scripture he would whisper to himself on the field was from the disciple Paul in Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
3. Matt Hasselbeck (Quarterback – Indianapolis Colts)
– Hasselbeck said it can be difficult to understand God’s plan for your life, and that’s when it is most important to have faith. He recites Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
4. Andy Reid (Head Coach – Kansas City Chiefs)
– The former BYU offensive lineman prays daily, attends chapel and used to travel around the community with his wife Tammy speaking to groups about his faith. “Our faith is that foundation, and it dictates a lot about how we’ve handled things both in the good times and the bad. Is life going to be perfect? No. Is football going to be perfect? No. Is your faith going to be perfect? Well, the heavenly Father’s plan is perfect, but we’ve all got our weaknesses trying to follow that plan.”
5. Marvin Lewis (Head Coach – Cincinnati Bengals)
– Lewis says one of the highlights to his busy week is his one-on-one session with the team chaplain and potluck dinners the team sometimes schedules around a Bible study. “I’ll basically mandate that everyone goes to chapel at least once because I want them to have the experience of it,” he said. “I’m not going to force my beliefs on them, but it’s important for them to know it’s not a bad thing; it’s a good thing. Then I’ll leave it alone. They can’t feel pressured. We want the environment to be comfortable to them, but not overbearing. They have a choice.”
Steve Harvey believes young men from fatherless homes need more mentors and is taking to the New Beginnings Church of Chicago to find some.
Harvey, the 56-year-old comedian, host and best-selling author, is leading The Steve & Marjorie Harvey Foundation in hosting a Steve Harvey Mentoring Campaign event at the church Nov 14. Harvey will be joined by outspoken Pastor Corey Brooks of New Beginnings Church, who has spoken out about helping the troubled Chicago youth rife with gang violence.
With the help of Brooks and his church, Harvey hopes to recruit mentors to help young Chicago men in need who do not have fathers in their homes, according to a release from The Steve & Marjorie Harvey Foundation. The event will feature a discussion about the issues faced in the community where the entertainer hopes to inspire people become mentors in the Chicago metro area.
Harvey will follow up his mentor recruitment day at the church by taking to Chicago State University from Nov. 15-17 where he will host 100 young men in grades eight through 12. At the University, the young men who applied to take part in the event will be taught the principles of manhood while participating in educational and physical activities.
This is not the first time Harvey has used his time and energy to mentor young men. The Steve and Marjorie Harvey Foundation hosted 100 young men from single parent households in the Detroit metro area with team building, physical fitness and educational programs last September .
“We want these young men to gain an experience that is not taught in a classroom with real talk and genuine issues of everyday life. We want to empower them in a positive way with a refreshing environment and open their imaginations beyond what they already know,” Harvey said of his mentoring experience in Detroit, in a statement released by his foundation. “With the opportunity to take part in a mentoring program focused on their future potential and dreams, these young men will walk away knowing that no dreams are too big and the tools to take charge of achieving them.”
Fitness doesn’t have to be drudgery. These tips can help you add focus and fun to your routine.
Have you ever started a fitness program and then quit? If you answered yes, you’re not alone. Many people start fitness programs but stop when they get bored or results come too slowly. Here are seven tips to help you stay motivated.
1. Set goals
Start with simple goals and then progress to longer range goals. Remember to make your goals realistic and achievable. It’s easy to get frustrated and give up if your goals are too ambitious.
For example, if you haven’t exercised in a while, a short-term goal might be to walk 10 minutes a day three days a week. An intermediate goal might be to walk 30 minutes five days a week. A long-term goal might be to complete a 5K walk.
2. Make it fun
Find sports or activities that you enjoy, then vary the routine to keep you on your toes. If you’re not enjoying your workouts, try something different. Join a volleyball or softball league. Take a ballroom dancing class. Check out a health club or martial arts center. Discover your hidden athletic talent. Remember, exercise doesn’t have to be drudgery — and you’re more likely to stick with a fitness program if you’re having fun.
3. Make physical activity part of your daily routine
If it’s hard to find time for exercise, don’t fall back on excuses. Schedule workouts as you would any other important activity. You can also slip in physical activity throughout the day. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Walk up and down sidelines while watching the kids play sports. Pedal a stationary bike or do strength training exercises while you watch TV at night.
4. Put it on paper
Are you hoping to lose weight? Boost your energy? Sleep better? Manage a chronic condition? Write it down. Seeing the benefits of regular exercise on paper may help you stay motivated.
You may also find it helps to keep an exercise diary. Record what you did during each exercise session, how long you exercised and how you felt afterward. Recording your efforts can help you work toward your goals — and remind you that you’re making progress.
5. Join forces with friends, neighbors or others
You’re not in this alone. Invite friends or co-workers to join you when you exercise. Work out with your partner or other loved ones. Play soccer with your kids. Organize a group of neighbors to take fitness classes at a local health club.
6. Reward yourself
After each exercise session, take a few minutes to savor the good feelings that exercise gives you. This type of internal reward can help you make a long-term commitment to regular exercise. External rewards can help, too. When you reach a longer range goal, treat yourself to a new pair of walking shoes or new tunes to enjoy while you exercise.
7. Be flexible
If you’re too busy to work out or simply don’t feel up to it, take a day or two off. Be gentle with yourself if you need a break. The important thing is to get back on track as soon as you can.
Now that you’ve regained your enthusiasm, get moving! Set your goals, make it fun and pat yourself on the back from time to time. Remember, physical activity is for life. Review these tips whenever you feel your motivation slipping.
In a recent interview, gospel singer Mandisa admitted she draws strength from her own music while on tour.
“I’m fighting every day — it’s not just for a final destination,” Mandisa said to MLive.com, regarding her life and the encouragement of her song, “Overcomer.”
In the interview the singer reveals one of her biggest struggles is with weight. She has lost 100 pounds since 2006.
“It’s an every-day, one-decision, one-temptation at a time battle I’m choosing to fight,” she said in the interview.
A particular stinging comment from Simon Cowell when Mandisa was “American Idol” about her weight put the issue in front of a national audience.
“When he made those comments it put my story out there very publicly, and I think people will say, ‘If she can do it, I can do it, too,” she said concerning Cowell’s remark about her figure in regards to being an “American Idol.”
They two met again in 2009 after she had lost 70 pounds and Cowell was encouraging and said he was “proud” of her.
She is currently on the “Brandisa Tour,” a play of her name and fellow tour mate, Brandon Heath.
Mandisa performed the National Anthem this past Sunday in honor of Breast Cancer Month for an NFL game that featured the 49ers and Texans on the NFL Network.
While Mandisa was singing, survivors of Breast Cancer joined her on stage.
The NFL and NFL Players Association are supporting National Breast Cancer Awareness Month with their fifth annual screening initiative, “A Crucial Catch: Annual Screening Saves Lives,” and a fundraising campaign. The initiative reminds women 40 and older about the importance of having an annual mammogram.
The Grand Ole Opry also asked Mandisa to unit with them on Tuesday, Oct. 22, for Women Rock For The Cure to battle breast cancer at the fifth annual “Opry Goes Pink” show.
Mandisa’s music video for “Overcomer” debuted two weeks ago exclusively on the “Good Morning America” website.
The video features appearances with former U.S. Congresswoman Gabby Giffords, Captain Mark Kelly, Gold Medalist Scott Hamilton, and “GMA” host Robin Roberts.
“We chose each of them because when we thought of who has been an example of an overcomer in a very public battle, it is hard to imagine anyone more appropriate than the amazing people in my video. They have all fought, and continue to fight victoriously. I pray that sharing their inspirational stories throughout the video will leave people saying, ‘If they can do it, so can I!'” Mandisa said in a press release.
“I was really inspired by Mandisa’s song ‘Overcomer’ because its message is one of hope, perseverance and faith,” said Gabby Giffords, former U.S. Congresswoman about the song in a statement. “We can’t always control what happens to us in life, but we can control how we respond. Like the song says, if we keep positive and ‘stay in the fight till the final round,’ we can overcome more than we ever dreamed possible.”
BY JUSTIN SARACHIK, CP
Preachers of LA’ Premiere Reveals Deitrick Haddon’s ‘Comeback;’ Debate on ‘Charging for the Gospel
Oxygen network has made available online the premiere episode of its Christian-based docu-series “Preachers of L.A.” The first episode titled, “Comeback,” introduces viewers to the six Southern California ministers starring in the program, and delves right into their challenges and controversies, including Deitrick Haddon fathering a child through adultery. The men also tackle questions about charging for ministry appearances.
In the first episode of “Preachers of L.A.,” viewers are shown Haddon, his fiance Dominique and their toddler daughter practicing in the studio in preparation for a “comeback” concert at Bishop Noel Jones’ City of Refuge church. Haddon, who began a relationship with Dominique while going through a divorce, attempts to reassure her that all will be well. The Grammy-nominated and multiple Stellar Gospel Music Award winner had a fall-out with his former church and suffered a public controversy as a result of his relationship with his child’s mother.
“Everything’s going to be okay no matter what,” says Haddon. “God put us together.”
Next up is Bishop Ron Gibson and first lady LaVette Gibson of Life Church of God in Christ, a 4,000-member congregation. Gibson, a former gangbanger, came to Christ during a drug overdose at a party. As he tells it, while OD’ing, he heard his mother’s voice say, “Call on the name of Jesus.” That very same night, Bishop Gibson “converted to Christianity.”
“I don’t know what I’d do without Jesus,” he says in one scene, before adding his wife, “the love of my life,” as no. 2 on the list of important people in his life.
Viewers are first introduced to the couple while they are in the kitchen at home, discussing a gang-related shooting at the home of an acquaintance. Bishop Gibson tells lady Gibson that he plans to make a visit in an effort to prevent a retaliatory attack. When lady Gibson asks who will be going with him, Bishop Gibson responds:
“I’ll be honest with you. I’m going into a gang-infested neighborhood. So I’m taking the Lord along with me, but just in case they don’t respect the Lord in me, I’m also taking the law with me. So I’m taking Mr. Glock.”
Anticipating his wife’s concerns, Bishop Gibson asks her to simply pray for him.
Bishop Gibson, born in the Imperial Courts housing projects in South Central L.A. and once a member of the Compton Crips, makes frequent trips back to the old neighborhood to minister to those still in the life.
“I go back to Compton like Jesus went back to Nazareth. He never forgot to go back to Nazareth where the less fortunate were. And that’s what I do, I go back,” says Gibson.
Next up in the “Preachers of L.A.” premiere episode is Bishop Noel Jones, senior pastor of 20,000-member City of Refuge church. Jones, brother of celebrity Grace Jones, has been without a wife for two decades, and shares in the episode that it is sometimes difficult being a single Christian minister.
“Being a single pastor is difficult, and you do feel the pressure to be married,” he says at one point.
“Of course women throw themselves at you in this business,” Bishop Jones adds.”Which man is not going to have a hard time with women coming at him? Pictures, emails, just sticking numbers in your hand.”
As for if he will ever remarry: “I don’t know.”
Pastor Jay Haizlip and Christy Haizlip of The Sanctuary church soon make their appearance. Haizlip, who has 3,5000 members across two congregations, was a former addict who learned about Jesus Christ while on his way to buy drugs.
“Everything that meant anything, I lost it all. I’m not proud of that,” he says in the “Preachers of L.A.” episode. “But everything that I’ve gone through in my life is being used for a good purpose now.”
Pastor Wayne Chaney and first lady Myesha Chaney then make their appearance. Chaney, who leads 2,000-member Antioch Church of Long Beach, says amid scenes of him cuddling with his wife after a long day, “We want people to know you can be saved, sanctified and sexual. God made us that way.”
“Some people believe that Christians should not display public affection. However, I’m not one of those people,” he adds in another scene.
Bishop Clarence McClendon and first lady Priscilla McClendon, of Full Harvest International Church, a 3,500-member congregation, are shown at their home office discussing an unsettling letter from one of McClendon’s female admirers.
Bishop McClendon is shown seperately on camera saying: “I’m not just a bishop or a pastor. I have to be a chief executive officer. Our ministry is a worldwide enterprise. You have the responsibility of managing a multiplicity of things.”
“Ministry doesn’t start when you wake up and it doesn’t end when you go to bed,” he adds. “I don’t have a job, I have a life.”
Bishop Clarence McClendon in his office.
The scene eventually turns to a pivotal part of the episode: Haddon’s comeback concert at Bishop Jones’ City of Refuge church. All of the cast members are in attendance, and are shown having a good time during the gospel music performance.
Forest Whitaker, playing a no-nonsense reverend, is joined by Angela Bassett, Jennifer Hudson, Mary J. Blige and other leading stars in a modern adaptation of Harlem Renaissance poet Langston Hughes’ classic Off-Broadway production.
Presented by Fox Searchlight Pictures, the holiday musical drama follows a Baltimore teen named Langston (Jacob Latimore) sent by his single mother, Naima (Jennifer Hudson) to New York City to spend the Christmas holiday with his estranged relatives, the Reverend Cornell (Whitaker) and Aretha Cobbs (Bassett). Finding the Reverend’s rules too severe, Langston makes up his mind to return home to Baltimore to be with his mother.
“Langston embarks on a surprising and inspirational journey and along with new friends, and a little divine intervention, he discovers the true meaning of faith, healing, and family,” according to a description of the film.
Tyrese Gibson, Nasir “Nas” Jones, Vondie Curtis-Hall are among other stars appearing in the film. Joy Goodwin executive produced the musical drama.
Kasi Lemmons, who directed “Black Nativity” and wrote the screenplay, called the film her “Godspell,” an Off-Broadway production from the ’70s.
“I was a huge fan of musicals as a kid,” she told USA Today. “The ‘Fantasticks was one of my favorites. And ‘Black Nativity’ spoke to my childhood, with ‘Jesus Christ Superstar’ and ‘Godspell.’ This is my ‘Godspell.'”
Langston Hughes’s play, originally titled “Wasn’t It a Mighty Day?,” debuted Off-Broadway in Dec. 1961. Still performed on stage today, “Black Nativity” retells the story of the birth of Jesus Christ from the Book of Luke with an all-black cast performing in song and dance.
“Black Nativity” will be in U.S. theaters starting Nov. 27.
US Gov’t Shutdown: 800,000 Furloughed Workers, Museums Closed, Obamacare Health Exchanges Go Into Effect Today
With no deal in sight, the U.S. federal government will undergo a partial government shutdown until political leaders can reach an agreement to fund the government. On Tuesday morning, all non-essential government employees will be ordered to leave work until further notice. This is the first time the government is shutting down in 17 years.
The Republican-led House of Representatives has passed three continuing resolutions to temporarily fund the government. The Democratic-led Senate has countered with three of its own continuing resolutions. Yet the two sides have failed to reach an agreement. President Barack Obama, meanwhile, says that he will not offer any concessions to Republicans to finalize a deal.
As of Tuesday, some 800,000 federal workers who are considered non-essential will be furloughed.
The Republican’s first offer would have defunded the Affordable Care Act, or “Obamacare.” Their second offer was to delay implementation of the ACA for one year. Their third offer, passed Monday afternoon and quickly rejected by the Senate, would have delayed the individual mandate to purchase health insurance for one year, repealed the medical device tax, and revoked the premium supports for congressional staffers (Republicans say this is repealing an exemption from the law for Congress, but this is a myth.)
Each Republican bill got consecutively more Democratic votes in the House, from two to nine, and fewer Republican votes.
In a Monday interview on NPR, Obama said he will not make any counteroffers to Republicans.
“I shouldn’t have to offer anything,” he said. “They’re not doing me a favor by paying for things that they have already approved for the government to do. That’s part of their basic function of government; that’s not doing me a favor. That’s doing what the American people sent them here to do, carrying out their responsibilities.”
Even though Republicans passed three funding bills, each consecutively more in the direction of the president’s position, and Obama refuses to compromise with them, he complained that Republicans will only negotiate if they can get 100 percent of what they want.
“I have said consistently that I’m always happy to talk to Republicans and Democrats about how we shape a budget that is investing in things like early childhood education, rebuilding our roads and bridges and putting people back to work, growing our economy, making sure that we have the research and development to stay at the cutting edge and that deals with some of our long-term debt issues. But we’re not going to accomplish those things if one party to this conversation says that the only way that they come to the table is if they get 100 percent of what they want and if they don’t, they threaten to burn down the house,” he said.
The House and Senate did pass a bill that would make sure that active duty military would continue to be paid in the event of a government shutdown. Obama said he would sign that bill.
All essential government personnel will remain at work. This means that all federal law enforcement, federal courts, border patrol, air traffic control and the U.S. Postal Service will not be effected. Also, those that receive Social Security, SNAP, or “food stamps,” Medicare, Medicaid, unemployment insurance and school lunches will continue to receive their benefits. The ACA’s health care exchanges will also go into effect, as planned, on Tuesday.
All national parks and museums will be closed. Other federal agencies will reduce many of its functions but maintain others. The IRS, for instance, will continue to collect taxes, but any audits will be suspended until the shutdown is over.
This will be the 18th government shutdown since 1976.
“I just want to be happy.”
We hear that regularly from people who want to end their marriages. The premise is simple: I am not happy in this marriage but I will be happy if it ends. Typically, they believe that when freed from this marriage they will develop a new and blissful relationship with someone else.
Sometimes a marriage should end. For example, it may be necessary to leave if a spouse or child is in danger. However most of the departing spouses I work with are not seeking safety; instead, they pursue an anticipated different life in which a new companion will make everything wonderful. More than twenty years working with marriages in trouble teaches me that typically the belief is a delusion. Unfortunately, for most of them, their anticipated “happily ever after” eventually evolves into “what was I thinking?”
There are several reasons that occurs.
A Faulty Assumption
People seem to have an underlying assumption that after divorce they will fall into the arms of the lover of their dreams.
Sometimes I think that I could motivate people to salvage their marriages if I could get them to understand some of the underlying reasons that 44% of the adult population in America are single. The rapidly rising ratio of singles to marrieds does not indicate that most people do not wish to be married; it more clearly represents the difficulty in our self-centered culture to develop a relationship with a person who genuinely cares about you.
It is easy to find someone who will use you; it is difficult to find someone who will selflessly love you.
I know many beautiful, intelligent women with great jobs and dazzling personalities who are alone, though that is not their preference. They have no lack of men who wish to take advantage of them, but cannot find the one who will love deeply and commit to a long-lasting relationship. I know many handsome, brilliant men with solid incomes and sparkling wit who dread going home to empty houses at night. They are tired of the single life. Though surrounded by women, they live in loneliness because they cannot find the one with whom they wish to share their future.
Before you end your marriage, consider how likely it is to find a solid, loving relationship. Is your future more likely to be happy by competing with the masses of singles searching for true love, or by working things out with the person you already know intimately? Every relationship carries risks. Solving your problems with the person who wants to be with you is far easier than sorting through strangers hoping to find one who will love you more than him- or herself.
An Unexpected Future
If you are thinking, “That doesn’t apply to me. I already found the person I will be with for the rest of my life,” perhaps you should think beyond the present. You are not nearly as secure as you think. I do not have the statistics at hand, but twenty years’ experience working with marriages teaches me that relationships that begin through cheating have a very, very poor chance of success.
You likely think you are the exception.
Everyone does…until the terrible day they discover that they are not.
When one woman told me she and her lover were leaving their spouses for each other, I asked how they developed their emotional bond. She said they met on Facebook, eventually creating secret accounts their spouses did not know about so they could communicate freely. Her face fell instantly when I asked how she would know for sure he would never have another secret Facebook account. Or, for that matter, how she could be sure she would never have another. She indignantly replied, “He would never cheat on me. He loves me. I would never cheat on him. I love him.” I gently reminded her that she surely felt the same way about her current husband when she married him, yet she now was cheating on him. Similarly, her lover must have felt the same way about his current wife when he married her.
I pressed, “Each of you have demonstrated that what you feel at the moment is more important to you than vows you made. Emotions change. They did before; they can again. What happens then?”
She scowled, “I thought I was in love when I married before. Now I know what love really is and this love will last a lifetime.”
Against the advice of many who cared about her, she divorced her husband and married her paramour.
It lasted nearly two years.
Now she is alone. She left a man who loved her, though they had severe problems, for a man who made her feel loved beyond anything she had ever imagined. As happens so often, her fairytale love turned out to be just that, a fairytale. She gave up so much for a short-term elation. If she had decided to get the help she and her first husband needed, she would still be married – happily married once they worked things out – to a man who truly loved her.
Now, she is alone. Her life will never be the same.
A Fact of Life
In the beginning of a relationship, two people tend to be on their best behaviors as they try to make the best impression on each other. They tend to listen more, be more generous and giving, and are more attentive to the other’s wishes. My friend Willard Harley calls it the Mother Teresa phase of a relationship. He says that in this phase each person feels “I want to do what makes you happy and avoid anything that makes you unhappy.”
However, as time passes, we tend to listen less, become less giving, and are more attentive to our own wishes. Willard says we can evolve to what he calls the Attila the Hun phase where each feels, “I want to do what makes me happy and avoid anything that makes me unhappy.”
When one relationship goes bad, it is easy to assume that we will find another that will be much better. However, assumptions have a way of leading to disaster. Things do not always work out the way we plan.
Every relationship has its problems. They start with rainbows; they eventually experience thunderstorms. While leaving one person may seem to be a solution to current difficulties, developing a relationship with a new person always leads to its own difficulties. Every relationship – even the birth of a child – carries the potential of pain over time. An advantage to fixing problems in a current relationship is that you know what the problems are. In any new or relatively new relationship, problems will come; however, you do not know what they will be.
Many have realized that the problems they left paled in comparison to the problems they encountered. Working things out with a current spouse minimizes risk of even greater pain lurking over the horizon in a new relationship.
Via Christian Post